So Today is Valentine’s Day

I am so glad I have finally gotten comfortable with being single in my 30s where Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean a damn thing to me, anymore. I will not lie and say that I not only regretted February 14 every year as a teenager but it felt even more difficult in my 20s. The sight of seeing red, white, red and brown teddy bears, red roses and those Kay Jeweler commercials used to make me cringe either with some envy or a day I did not have a date to take me to dinner. Those were some of the highs and lows with this so called “Cupid” day of love, but I don’t know it is–now it is different. Perhaps, I have more things to deal with now than in the past, and finding a new love or being in love is just not a priority on my to-do list.

I guess my feelings regarding this is the same for other marketing holidays (with the exception of birthdays) which is whether you are single, married or in a relationship that your love for that person should be shown every day of the year. Give gifts whenever you feel like it and not just on Valentine’s Day. After Valentine’s Day what else are you going to do, but probably wait for another big holiday that requires you to spend more money to make up for all of the other normal days to show that person you love them. This is one of the wise things I have learned in my adult life — within the past 3 years. When I turned 30.

Also, this is not to say that I am anti-Valentine’s Day, and that I am not going to be judgmental towards other people who choose to celebrate it because it is a lovely holiday. If I ever have a significant other that believes it is a special occasion to send me flowers or take me out to dinner than I would be very appreciative for it. Of course, I am a woman and would not tell him “no” either. That would be crazy!

So, cheers for all of the lovebirds out there who salutes V-Day. To all of you single ladies, don’t let this day, the Kay Jeweler commercials, chocolate or Ben & Jerry’s get the best of you.

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